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First Posted: 9/25/2013 PLAINS TWP. &#8212; Time does not heal all wounds, the desire to be with that person grows greater with time, Jim Kline said Wednesday night during a candle light vigil in memory of murder victims at the Plains Township Municipal Park.The event marked the National Day Of Remembrance for Murder Victims, which was designated by the U.S. Congress in 2007, according to the National Victims Support Services.Gathering in a quiet part of the park, across from the pavilion, about 30 families and friends who have had daughters, sons, husbands or wives ripped from their lives by murder came together to help one another carry on one more day.Donna Walling, of Plain Township, organizer of the the event, also mourns her daughter Jamie Marie Walling, who was murdered on Oct. 5, 2000.Walling said this is the first year that a vigil of this nature was held. As a founder of the local chapter of the National Organization of Parents of Murdered Children (POMC), she said the group used to hold a memorial at the courthouse with a slide show of their children.Jim and Rose Ann Kline of Nanticoke still grieve for their daughter, Melissa Marie Kline, who was 25 when she was murdered by her former boyfriend on Feb. 21, 2005. Jim Kline said he visits the cemetery one or twice daily. He said that when he first heard of POMC, he reached out to Walling.&#8220;It was really easy to talk with her,&#8221; he said. &#8220;We all share the same pain.&#8221;On a picnic table, a black story board sat with pictures of some of the murdered family members frozen in time. A single flame burned in front shedding enough light to read their names and dates.Walling, with a shaky voice, said that after the death of her daughter, a friend recommended POMC. Walling said that at the time she was always crying and was having a difficult time coping with the loss. After reading the organization&#8217;s website, she discovered her grief was quite normal.&#8220;I know I drove one woman at their headquarters in Cincinnati, Ohio, crazy,&#8221; she said. &#8220;But she gave me her email, work and home phone number.&#8221;Through this interaction, Walling found her strength and a way to keep her Jamie alive in her heart. Walling ran a POMC chapter locally for four years. The group has ended, but she encourages anyone who has lost a loved one due to a murder to call her at 570-235-1029.&#8220;You learn to take five minutes at a time a day, then that turns into 10 minutes at a time, &#8221; she said. &#8220;Gradually, you learn to take each day hour by hour.&#8221;Everyone grieves differently and she stressed to never let anyone tell you there is a time limit on grieving.Before lighting the candles, Walling told the group, &#8220;there is no pill to take to stop the thoughts and the feelings that we feel.&#8221;&#8220;Memories are not enough, I want more, I want my Jamie,&#8221; she said. &#8220;I often wonder, &#8216;What would she look like? Would she be married? Would she have children?&#8217; &#8221;Walling lit her candle and turned to light the candle of Tammy Purpura of Lock Haven, who had lost her three children, Justin, Jennifer and Jon, when her husband shot them in the head.&#8220;He took his own life, too, &#8221; she said. &#8220;It is hard to know that he is not here suffering like I am.&#8221;-

Coping with the pain of loss