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<p><strong>Dear Annie:</strong> I have been with &#8220;Jim&#8221; for almost a year. He asked me to marry him, and I said yes.</p><p>The problem is, Jim never stops looking at other women when we are out. When I finally mentioned it to him, he said I don&#8217;t trust him. Annie, it isn&#8217;t an issue of trust. It&#8217;s respect. He makes me feel inadequate. I let him know that I cannot compete with all these other women, and his response was that I need to find someone else.</p><p>I don&#8217;t want anyone else, all I want is his attention on me when we are together. He told me that all of his male friends think looking is OK. I don&#8217;t mind it most of the time, but it bothers me when we can&#8217;t have a conversation because he loses concentration. He never wants to discuss any issues we have. Instead, he gets up and leaves and says we need a few days apart, which I don&#8217;t think is healthy for a relationship. He has never said, &#8220;Let&#8217;s try and work on it.&#8221; He never admits he is wrong, always putting the blame on me.</p><p>I need advice on what I can do or say that would make him see that I love him and respect him, but I need the same from him. &#8212; Nervous Nellie</p><p><strong>Dear Nellie:</strong> Here&#8217;s our advice: Say goodbye to Jim and find someone more mature, decent and emotionally available. His roving eyes don&#8217;t have to be a major problem. But any guy who refuses to discuss important issues, won&#8217;t admit he&#8217;s ever wrong, puts the blame for everything on you and then tells you to find someone else if you don&#8217;t like it, is not marriage material. You will spend your married life miserable, twisting yourself into a pretzel to get his respect and attention. We can assure you, nothing you do will make him treat you any better. Get out while you can.</p><p><strong>Dear Annie:</strong> I have three stepchildren whom I have helped raise since they were little. The boy lived with us and the girls came every other weekend. They are now in their 20s and 30s. I have been good to these kids and always treated them as my own.</p><p>The thing that hurts me is that on Mother&#8217;s Day, I don&#8217;t get any acknowledgment whatsoever. On Father&#8217;s Day, my husband gets phone calls and expensive gifts from his kids. I have children from a previous marriage and they love my husband and always visit him on Father&#8217;s Day and bring him cards and gifts. It&#8217;s the same at Christmas. His children give him expensive presents, and I&#8217;m lucky to get a trinket from the dollar store.</p><p>How can I get over the hurt? &#8212; Crying on the Inside</p><p><strong>Dear Crying:</strong> You are not likely to get a gift of equal value to your husband&#8217;s, nor should you expect one, but his kids can certainly give you a card on these special occasions to show that they are thinking of you. Have you mentioned it to them or to your husband? It&#8217;s OK to let them know how much these things would mean to you.</p><style>
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